Military Spouse Appreciation Day

7 May

This is for all my fellow military spouses – past, present and future!

The Military Wife

Lots of moving…



Moving far from home…

Moving two cars, three kids and one dog…all riding with HER of course.

Moving sofas to basements because they won’t go in THIS house; moving curtains that won’t fit; moving jobs and certifications and professional development hours. Moving away from friends; moving toward new friends; moving her most important luggage: her trunk full of memories.

Often waiting…



Waiting for housing. Waiting for orders. Waiting for deployments. Waiting for phone calls. Waiting for reunions. Waiting for the new curtains to arrive. Waiting for him to come home for dinner…AGAIN!

They call her ‘Military Dependent’, but she knows better: She is fiercely In-Dependent.

She can balance a check book, handle the yard work, fix a noisy toilet, bury the family pet.

She is intimately familiar with drywall anchors and toggle bolts.

She can file the taxes, sell a house, buy a car, or set up a move……..all with ONE Power of Attorney.

She welcomes neighbors that don’t welcome her.

She reinvents her career with every PCS.

Locates a house in the desert, the Arctic, o r the deep south.  And learns to call them all “home.”  She MAKES them all home.

Military wives are somewhat hasty; they leap into: decorating, leadership, volunteering, career alternatives, churches, and friendships.  They don’t have 15 years to get to know people.  Their roots are short but flexible.  They plant annuals for themselves and perennials for those who come after them.

Military wives quickly learn to value each other:  they connect over coffee, rely on the spouse network, accept offers of friendship and favors, record addresses in pencil…

Military wives have a common bond; the military wife has a husband unlike other husbands.  His commitment is unique. He doesn’t have a ‘JOB,’ he has a ‘MISSION’ that he can’t just decide to quit; he’s on-call for his country 24/7.  But for her, he’s the most unreliable guy in town!

His language is foreign: TDY PCS OPR SOS ACC BDU ACU BAR CIB TAD and so, a military wife is a translator for her family and his.  She is the long-distance link to keep them informed; the glue that holds them together.

A Military Wife has her moments: she wants to wring his neck; dye his uniform pink; refuse to move to Siberia…

But she pulls herself together. Give her a few days, a travel brochure, a long hot bath, a pledge to the flag, a wedding picture…

And she goes. She packs. She moves. She follows.

Why?  What for?  How come?  You may think it is because she has lost her mind.  But actually it is because she has lost her heart.  It was stolen from her by a man – a man who puts duty first, who longs to deploy, who salutes the flag, and whose boots in the doorway remind her that as long as he is her military husband, she will remain his military wife.

And would have it no other way.

8 Responses to “Military Spouse Appreciation Day”

  1. Rebecca May 7, 2010 at 10:53 am #

    You just said all the words I have been trying to push aside. You brought me to tears and for that I am thankful. Its been years since we’ve been the friends we were in high school, but you’re still the same wonderful person I knew back then. I am very thankful for everything you’ve done for me over the last several months and I WILL make a trip to come see you.

    I love you girl!

    • Jane May 7, 2010 at 6:32 pm #

      Oh, don’t cry! We military (Army) wives need to stick together! 😉 I’m so excited that the bond we had in high school was “rekindled” by the military bond we now share, too. I’m looking forward to hearing all about your first PCS and duty station with your hubby…and, keeping in touch over the years! And I’m so glad to hear that my tips, etc. have been helpful to you – I know how amazing it was for me to have army wife friends “take me under their wing” and show me the ropes – it’s still helpful now and I’m always learning! You’re always welcome to the “Blissful Stedmans” household! Love you too!

  2. Mom May 7, 2010 at 11:47 am #

    A couple of things….this should be printed in Military Spouse magazine; and, if you didn’t cry when you wrote it, I made up for it when I read it. Darn, I’m gonna have to buy stock in Kleenex!

    • Jane May 7, 2010 at 6:34 pm #

      Oh Mom! First of all, I didn’t cry when I posted it because – to be honest – it’s all true and just a reminder of what is daily, real life for our family…and so many families out there. I’m a very lucky girl that I’m in the “sisterhood” of army “wife-dom.” And yes, you better stock up on the kleenex – you’re getting a grandson very soon! :)

  3. Ashley May 8, 2010 at 8:04 am #

    Yup- that was a good one Jane. It is a super sweet poem and totally true. It rings forever in my heart and soul. Thank you for sharing this with me. I know other military wives will cherish this as much as I have.
    Thanks Ashley

    P.s. yes it totally made me cry!

  4. grandma Schaut May 10, 2010 at 7:58 am #

    I remember the days in the service and that post rang so true Love ya

    • Like it for TIME February 23, 2011 at 8:19 pm #

      Great post.

      I think my husband might disagree with “longing to deploy,” though.:)


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